Be Great at Simply Being You

Janet's counselling has helped me improve my anger. We would talk about a certain subject and Janet would help me talk about my problems that I never thought I could talk about. She helped me a lot and I am very thankful for her service.

J - Male 21yrs old (October 2017)

I am very mindful of the words I use when writing this testimonial as to the last six weeks Self Enquiry. I don’t want to make this Coaching exclusive to any group, gender or belief system anyone may have. An open mind and a desire to change (mine was deep inside me) I’d seen Janet’s page many times (to be really honest I’d kept looking since 2013) but was scared to go in case I saw /felt / opened so deeply and honestly, I couldn’t put myself together.... good old ego mind. To be honest for the last year I have been desperate for some sort of help – help beyond my GP and my best friends. It wasn’t even I want to discover “myself,” it was more the need to make sense of why I feel/thought the way I did. No matter how many glasses of wine I had or cigarettes I smoked in (and still do) I couldn’t run away from the deep hurt and inability to deeply cope with numerous situations I’ve had to deal with. To other people I was strong. A teacher, a healer, a mum, a wife, a friend, a daughter and yet none of those were “me” On my second session I realised that none of them when “me, “they were an aspect of myself, my story so far but not me. I’ve learnt that “me “is the smallest two letter Word to encompass the essence/soul that my human body housed. I’ve learnt that I have become conditioned to be who I thought I was. I’m 43 years old but with the simplest discoveries I realised why and where that conditioning came from. A 4 year old me, after the loss of my dad Iv became an empath, the reason for to live for my family so I became To start too nurture and to look after others . ... I’m happy with this role and will always be happy but now I can see why I THOUGHT I had to! The freedom in this is recognition helps me to understand who I am! This Coaching is simple. When I met Janet one morning she spoke to me and said I can help if you’re willing to take the steps. She said it’s really simple. My mind didn’t believe her. Before my second session I said with Janet that my brain said, “why will SHE be able to help you ... no one else has” I have to deeply laugh at that now!! The work /discovery you will embark soon is extremely simple. I can’t emphasise that enough. It took away the craziness that was in my head, the next hour, tomorrow, Christmas, birthdays, dog walks, shopping, cleaning all the things that happened in our daily life became simple. No brain chatter no you should be doing this ... you should have done that etc ... life became still and present. And everything above was completed but in a completely different way.

Sue Toon Brixham (2017/18)

I have been helped by Janet on so many levels. Health and wellbeing have been a huge part of my life for the past decade but it’s only been in the last year or so I’ve really looked into my emotions properly. I thought I was before but Janet has opened my eyes as to how to properly and deeply nourish myself. Janet has the most incredible way of getting you to see the absolute truth. Sometimes it was agonising, but other times utter bliss and peace. Whatever the emotions, I welcome them now and without Janet’s support I would have carried on denying them. What became apparent to me was that I was not recognising and really feeling all the great things that were already in my life. All to readily I’d beat myself up about something unpleasant but not feel the joy at all the good. Utter madness, but that’s all ended now. Janet has a real gentleness, but it’s also tempered with a bluntness when needed. She snaps it all back together. She has saved me having regrets because there are none. There have been lots of tears but lots of laughter too. Somehow Janet manages to remove the mist from the view so you can see clearly once again. Thank you Janet.

Julie Harrison - October 2018: Improve your Health

I found the work I did with Janet has enriched my life, it was a safe, calm atmosphere. I felt I could trust her implicitly. She has given me the tools for self care, a concept I had no idea of before working with her. I have gained valuable insight into myself and a new way of being. This was a revelation to me. I was able to talk about things I had never told anyone in my life about, and gain a different perspective about the past which has enabled me to take forward positively in the future.

Anonymous, Brixham (May 2018)

Janet reminded me about simplicity. Remembering simplicity was a huge relief. It was the building block I needed to re-align and re-assess (simply). Janet gave me direction to tools I could use day to day and indeed and gratefully still do. My first discussion with Janet was one of , what I considered at the time despair! I was feeling anxious and scared and extremely upset and I was looking here, there and everywhere for something, anything to break those feelings and emotions. Within a few minutes I was laughing and relieved of those dark and heavy (for that is how I saw them) feelings. Janet listened and then supportingly questioned me and in those few minutes I realised I was seriously over thinking and over complicating things. I feel that perhaps it took someone to listen without judgement and respond to my absurdities without judgement to help me come back to myself and notice that it was my thoughts that were being taken far too seriously and overtaking feeling. I learnt that my mind is like the sky and my thoughts are simply clouds - coming and going - not to be held on to or taken too seriously, the real me is in the moment of the breath changing from inhale to exhale, the real me is also the thoughts but only in a moment and the real me is ever changing, always imperfectly perfect and full of joy and laughter. Thank you Janet for your time and your listening but also and most importantly for the moment when you laughed and laughed (with love) at some of the things I told you I was doing to try and help myself - it is your laughter that lightened "the load" and was a real lightbulb moment for me because I saw I was taking myself way too seriously! Love to you and plenty more laughter

Katy W Torquay (March 2019)

Janet's Kindness and guidance helped me to get back on track with my life. Forever grateful. Thank you

Anonymous Brixham (March 2019)

I came to recognise how my reactions and behaviour is continually influenced by past experiences. I have moved from a Carers role to coping with the death of my partner. I often hear Janet's voice saying "is that really the case / true....?" Whilst exhausting I usually end up with a clearer picture of the issue, my reaction and the way ahead. I will carry much of what I l learnt about myself (with Janet) forward into the next phase of my life on my own, Deeply valuable as there is no-one else to be honest with me but myself!

Anonymous, Brixham

Janet helped me understand and accept my emotions, particularly about things that happened in the past. I felt safe and supported through facing some difficult feelings about and around my childhood. Helped me with difficulties with low self esteem.

Anonymous, Devon (November 2019)

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