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By janet, Apr 16 2016 07:56PM

Feeling lost, not knowing which way to turn, that awful restless feeling but knowing that to turn away from YourSelf to others for reassurance is no longer the way........it no longer works.


The way is inner journey, to sit with YourSelf and to see what you look like when you are lost. To allow YourSelf to be exactly how you are right now, in this space. And to accept this You, no analysing, no judgements.


Just being with this you, the only questions to ask are what do I need right now, what can I give to this Me, who has chosen to show up too.


By this action alone you encourage a wonderful positive change to occur within you. With acknowledgement, acceptance that there is nothing “wrong” here. That there is no “lack”, with this part of you, who you now hold and cherish, choose to love deeply in this moment.


An uncertainty, arises... what now?


Now there is acceptance and taking in to YourSelf this no longer feeling quite so “lost” you.


What remains in this moment is still you.


Take time to sit and know this more complete version of you. There is no need for anything else.

Allow YourSelf to feel how this is, who you are in this time of present Youness.


All is well


By janet, Apr 4 2016 12:54PM

When an old fear arises from a depth somewhere, it offers opportunity to let go of something so....

stay with it.

Don’t make that immediate move away!


Instead, get comfortable, ready to sit a while and allow whatever it is within you to be heard. At last!


Don’t you know that only by allowing this, by being with this... are you able to move through it.

There is not getting around or over it!

See how harsh that feels on the tongue, the taste of aggressive words..."get over it," perhaps you heard that from another time...

When we choose instead, to speak with a tongue filled with love and compassion..


So now, back to kindness – Sitting with the fearFULL you... no need to understand.. just stay.

Whatever comes, stay.. be open, listen and be ready to hold YourSelf in whatever way is necessary for you. ..tenderly, gently, kindly......

But most importantly of all stay in love, in compassion and acceptance.


There is no place for judgement here, only love. No agenda, no “place” to get to, no "higher" or "better"

Self to achieve!


Simply... beautiful Self Love and within that endless possibility and opportunies to learn more from

you than you could ever hope to know “out there”.


Love YOU


#becomegreatatsimplybeingyou #beingyououtloud #selflove #intransition

#authenticlife #mindwideopen


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By Janet Astle, Oct 27 2015 04:58PM

A little like being in some kind of thin box, you can hear clearly...see pretty clearly and still feel but it is as if from a distance.


Numbness can be a way of the mind protecting the body.


Your arms might not be moving out too far from the body, for example as you type you may feel a real comfort in your hands being just right in front of you on the keyboards and barely moving to the left or right.


It can be a little like thinking through “cotton wool” or at least that could be an imagined description, this is because we really are dealing with the mind right now. Part of you may have felt a need to retreat, withdraw.....somewhere.


Sometimes this can be due to trauma of some kind, some people can revisit a trauma and may not realise this on a thinking level (conscious level) but just re-act in a way which protects them, keeps them safe for now. This can happen often with grief where we can be in denial of that person having died.


You will function normally; it will feel as if your humour has been removed. Almost like a computer searches for a missing file. Your mind will think to something funny or see something which clearly is humorous, but there is no laughter etc.


You may feel tearful, although not be aware why.


What you can do:


Allow yourself to be completely honest with you, and also allow a trustworthy non judgemental friend / relative to support you, depending on how low or detached you may feel visit your GP or similar health practitioner, a Counsellor and of course allow yourself to call the Samaritans or a similar great organisation as and when needed. There is absolutely no failure or weakness in any of this, if your car broke down you would get it to the garage as soon as possible.....when we breakthrough (breakdown) surely we deserve the same kind of basic maintenance at least?


Don’t try to “jump start” yourself back, this is not a flat battery and may well “clear” on its own. But try to put measures in place to support yourself.


Don’t have high expectations of yourself for at least a day or do. Allow yourself the support you need and to just talk, share how this feels........a little like above, what it feels like to be in this place of no-feeling. Allow yourself to reach out as far as you can and that someone is enabled to support you.


Write a letter, without using your mind too much where possible.


Starting with something like:


When I am in this place of no – feeling it’s like...........


Or If I were to feel right now it would be like................


And just allow the words to come, don’t force them and have patience with yourself, BE kind and Compassionate with yourself. No bullying to “get over it”


Sometimes practising being present can throw up a series of events and feelings, it is important to allow yourself to sit with those feelings and not abandon yourself.


Don’t try to “fix” yourself in that moment, because you aren’t “broken” but you will be telling yourself you are if you continually try to fix! Don’t look for solutions or analyze.


The more we practise this the more we get to know who we truly are on a deeper level. And then also perhaps what we need!


Being present means allowing ourselves to be completely authentic and vulnerable. When we do this, old fears, patterns and scripting can leap into any conversations & relationships appearing as if from nowhere leaving us suddenly feeling angry, bereft, and numb or a whole host of things.....sometimes to the point of overload.


This is where is it important to allow support and just let you BE in the literal sense.


Often in client work this is where I will hold space for someone else. As they allow themselves to BE vulnerable, whilst knowing that I am there in support of their experience if needed.


How much are you allowing yourself to be here right now? And how is that serving you in life?


By Janet Astle, Jul 31 2015 03:06PM

Allow that feeling.

That overwhelming feeling, to wash over you and stop!

Don’t abandon yourself, stay with you right now.

You need you right now, others may have left so ensure that you stay, during this pain.

Allow the tears to fall, breathe into that again, the more you breathe into it the less intense it will need to be.

The emotion trapped or blocked within our bodies with grief needs to be allowed, felt, explored and ultimately loved before it can leave us ......inviting a loss within loss itself.

Only the fear of this creates more agony, but you see the agony is there simply to remind you of the sense of importance. What this meant in your life....to now be simply agonisingly letting go.

Allow the waves and befriend the breath as that is your ally in this.


Check in with your posture and bring yourself slowly from the crumpled heap you allowed yourself to visit and gently come back into the present.


This is freedom and it becomes more and more evident. If you practice this emotional freedom you will ultimately have less body pain and fear. It’s time to get to know you and the grief you carry within you.

Don’t label it, just allow it, the more you allow this with a kind and gentle sense of curiosity the more you allow yourself to understand what it is that is truly happening in this space, right now.

By not comparing this you fully acknowledge, respect and honour it and therefore your Self


By Janet Astle, Jul 31 2015 03:03PM

It’s time to celebrate who you are and how far you have come in this lifetime.

It’s time to acknowledge how wonderful you are and the beautiful gifts you carry within.

These gifts have always been there and the people who surround you in life see, hear and feel them every day.

The way you support your family and friends, no matter what

The way you continue to keep going when you feel you can’t go on

The way you inspire others with your words, but sadly never hear them for you

The way you smile when something really catches your hearts attention

The way you laugh at the simplest of things

The way you give SO much and yet never seem to take

The way you hold someone when they need you the most, when did you last hold yourself in that way?

You have carried these gifts and so much more within you all of your life.

Now it is time to look in the mirror and say, I’m sorry I’m late but I am here now and I’m never going away again